Ever felt self-evolution/self-development is complicated? Turns out it's pretty simple (doesn't mean it's easy 😏), it's (almost) always a question of safety, love, or belonging. And there are a lot of things at play behind "safety"

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Summary & Transcript

Let's dive into one of the essential roots of wellness, in your life or in sex : safety. Safety forms the fundamental foundation upon which love and belonging thrive. Without safety, our journey towards sexual wellness can take...way more time than it could. Time to explore the intricate layers of what can change in your life and in bed 😏

1) Physical Safety: Building the Basic Foundation

The first layer of safety is physical safety, where meeting our basic needs such as shelter, food, and clothing is paramount. When our physical safety isn't with us, our ability to engage in pleasureful activities diminishes. By completing stress cycles and releasing physical tensions, we pave the way for a sense of safety within our bodies, essential for a fulfilling life (and sexual 😏) experience.

2) Emotional Safety: Nurturing Inner Harmony

Emotional safety delves into the realm of self-appreciation, love, and acceptance. It's about creating a space within ourselves where we feel supported and heard. By meeting our emotions with pleasure, we expand our capacity to experience them without being overwhelmed, fostering a safe emotional environment conducive to intimacy and pleasure.

3) Mental Safety: Taming the Mind Chatter

The often-overlooked aspect of safety, mental safety, confronts the constant chatter in our minds that can sabotage our sense of security. By acknowledging and making peace with the SM dungeon of our minds, we connect to more mental safety, allowing us to stay present and fully experience pleasure without distractions.

4) Energetical Safety: Reclaiming Inner Power

Energetical safety emerges when we address and release stored tensions and incomplete stress cycles. Because when you do that, the energy used in maintaining the tension/the story/the pain is released, so you have more energy available in your life overall. You can create a sense of wholeness that fosters a safe and grounded space for sexual exploration and connection.

5) Spiritual Safety: Connecting to the Divine

For some, spiritual safety plays a role in enhancing the sexual experience by connecting to a higher purpose or universal source of love. By surrendering and seeking support from a divine force or the universe, we can create a sense of deep connection and relaxation, elevating our sexual encounters to a transcendent level.

Recap

In summary, each layer of safety - physical, emotional, mental, energetical, and spiritual - plays a crucial role in shaping our self-evolution journey. By addressing and nurturing each layer, we pave the way for a fulfilling and empowering experience that honors our mind, body, and spirit.

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